People Are Ghosting Long-Term Partners. Some Don’t Regret It



Dean met Nicole on Bumble in 2018, and they immediately bonded over their shared Chicago upbringing.Nicole had kids, and they talked often about “wanting more than what we saw growing up in the environment we did,” Dean, a 37-year-old independent contractor, tells WIRED. They also both considered themselves more spiritual than religious, and were mentally, emotionally, and physically compatible. Best of all, “we rarely had a fight,” he says, “and could talk about any- and everything.”They eventually moved in together and even talked about getting married, though he says the idea was one-sided. “She wanted to. I secretly didn't.”In 2022, four years into the relationship, Dean says “she allowed her mind to be polluted” by “gender wars” discourse. As he saw it, she became one of those people who “attach themselves to feminism” and complained about men all the time. Even though Dean claims he is progressive, he says, “it wasn’t my thing” because Nicole had become overly negative.It was around then that he started to get the ick. His mind was made up: Instead of talking to her about his frustrations, he blocked her phone number and social media accounts, one afternoon while she was at work.In the months that followed, as Nicole attempted to get in contact with him through family members, Dean didn’t feel an ounce of remorse, only relief. “Like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I no longer had to bear her energy.” (Citing privacy concerns, the ghosters WIRED spoke to for this story asked that they be identified by their first name only.)Even now, he says he “absolutely” made the right decision.With dating apps and social media determining so much of how people connect, ghosting—ending a relationship by ignoring or blocking the other person’s calls and texts, effectively icing them out—has become the breakup mode du jour.According to a Thriving Center of Psychology survey, 84 percent of millennials and Gen Z say they’ve been ghosted at the end of a relationship. But while ghosting is widely accepted among singles during the initial stages of getting to know someone via the apps or as a means to end a situationship, it’s far less typical for multiyear relationships. In late June, Vogue UK shed light on the trend of “the disappearing boyfriend.” The article detailed the painful aftermath of women grappling with their partner’s sudden and shocking disappearance, noting how “many of these ghostings occur after things were seemingly going well.”To address this new normal, Dating.com recently announced that it was hiring a “chief breakup officer” who, for $3,000 a month, would be tasked with ending other people’s relationships for them.Naturally, ghosting is a lot easier when you’re communicating with strangers or people you know you’ll never run into again. When you know someone offline, there can be a greater sense of accountability, but even that doesn’t seem to always be the case anymore as expectations around communication are in decline.In the r/ghosting subreddit, stories of long-term relationships ending when one person decided to completely vanish have become alarmingly common, as Redditors have tried to understand the psychology behind such abrupt and seemingly cruel detachment.“I dated a girl for a year and a half. Out of the blue she said something in a normal discussion, and instead of having a conversation with her [about what upset me], I completely ignored her, walked away, refused to speak to her when she asked, and blocked her until she found out from someone else that we were done,” one commenter from r/ghosting tells WIRED over direct message.Sumi, a 36-year-old resident of San Francisco, decided to abandon his 18-month relationship by ghosting his girlfriend. “I’ve been no-contact for about four weeks now,” he says.Among Gen Z, terminating communication, romantic or otherwise, without any closure has become more pronounced. A recent survey by analytics firm Talker Research found that Gen Z are more likely to sever

Doomscrolling can be addictive. It’s common to end up on the couch for hours, mindlessly scrolling through feeds, which inevitably messes up your posture and, in the end, just ends up making you feel bad about yourself. Your eyes definitely don’t like it, either. Fortunately, there are several apps that encourage you to get up and move before you dive into social media. There’s even one that literally has you go outside and touch grass before you can scroll TikTok or Instagram. So, if you’re looking to cut back on screen time and be a little more active, here’s a roundup of some apps that can help. Digital Carrot Image Credits:Digital Carrot Digital Carrot blocks distracting apps, websites and games until you meet your daily fitness, productivity or screen time goals. It connects to wearables like the Apple Watch, and you can set personalized targets, say walking 6,000 steps a day. It also supports GPS- and time-based challenges, allowing users to block apps until they spend a certain amount of time at a specific location, such as completing a 60-minute workout at the gym. The app’s available on iPhone, Android, as well as macOS, Windows, and Linux. MeBeMe Image Credits:MeBeMe MeBeMe is aimed at helping users cultivate better habits. Instead of blocking phone access, the app sends you notifications to achieve certain missions, such as doing burpees, connecting with people, or warming up for three minutes. Though not solely focused on physical activity, its “Body” category includes challenges for athletes, dancers, cyclists, and runners. The app is currently available for free for iOS devices. StepBloc Image Credits:App Store StepBloc lets you lock access to apps until you walk a number of steps you can specify. In addition, you can also have link app access to completing specific workouts, such as push-ups, planks or squats for a specified amount of time. Once the workout is completed, the user can access selected apps like Instagram, TikTok, YouTube or games. This makes StepBloc particularly useful for people who want to offset their sedentary habits with short bursts of exercise. StepBloc is free on iOS devices, and requires a subscription for unlimited access. Steppin Image Credits:Steppin Created by the founder of Kayak, Steppin lets you trade physical movement for screen time. For example, it allows you to reward yourself with one minute of scrolling for every 100 steps you take. You have the flexibility to set your own step goals for accessing social media, streaming services or mobile games. It’s available to download on iOS devices. TouchGrass Image Credits:TouchGrass TouchGrass brings a unique twist to preventing doomscrolling habits by requiring you to step outside and take a photo of grass to unlock distracting apps. The app uses computer vision models to scan photos, and it will only accept images of grass (not trees or other plants). The freemium version allows you to lock two apps, and you can pay $5.99 per month or $49.99 per year to be able to lock more apps. TouchGrass is available for iOS devices. WalkLock Image Credits:WalkLock This iOS app integrates with Apple Health to limit access to designated apps until you meet your daily step goal. The app automatically tracks steps using health data collected by the iPhone or Apple Watch. It offers a lockscreen widget, too, which displays progress throughout the day, making it easy to monitor how close you are to unlocking apps. Walkly Image Credits:Google Play Store Walkly is an Android app that provides a similar experience as WalkLock. It locks selected social media, gaming, and other distracting apps until users walk a predetermined number of steps. The app continuously monitors physical activity and automatically unlocks apps when the walking goal has been achieved. WeWard Image Credits:WeWard WeWard initially launched as an app that incentivized walking by awarding users “Wards,” an in-app currency that can be exchanged f

For Arlan Rakhmetzhanov, 19, there is no middle ground. Either he builds a company as valuable as Google, he says, or he fails and ends up on the streets. He started coding at 15 in his native Kazakhstan, completed a couple of summer programs in San Francisco, and cold-DM’ed every Y Combinator founder he could find on LinkedIn until one gave him an angel check for his first company at age 17. That company, now the YC-backed Nozomio, is an API index for AI agents — a tool that helps AI agents find and use software services — and has raised more than $6 million in funding to date. “I either win or lose, and a lot of young founders have the same mindset,” he told TechCrunch. “They just want to win.” Young founders like Rakhmetzhanov are building under a new set of pressures. Investors are throwing more capital at them, yet the expectation to hit that “north star” milestone — the one big number investors are chasing — hasn’t relaxed, and every misstep along the way is now publicly dissected on social media. While Silicon Valley VCs have always famously loved backing young college dropout founders, they preferred to see them paired with technical founders, or at least to have some experience — ideally with a FAANG company (Meta, Amazon, Apple, Netflix, and Google) — on their résumés. In many ways, that is still very true. But AI tools have democratized the opportunity to build, shortening the timelines of success and enabling more young people to start successful companies without stepping foot inside a Big Tech company. Pranjali Awasthi, 19, is an example of that. She dropped out of high school to launch an AI startup, then attended Georgia Tech before dropping out of that, too, to launch Slashy, a YC-backed startup that bills itself as the “Cursor for emails” and helps consumers manage their email inboxes. After more than a year running that company, she recently announced she’s now building yet a new startup currently in stealth. When she was younger, around 14 or 15, she recalled, investors whom she would pitch often asked why she was looking to build a company. “It’s gotten more normal now,” she said, “post-18.” It seems more than ever, investors look to founders like Awasthi, whose experiences can be traced through “GitHub activity, open-source contributions, communities they’ve already built, and familiarity with all the latest tools in AI,” Ashley Smith, a general partner at the early-stage firm Vermilion, told TechCrunch. “A lot of young developers learn how to build software through contributing to open-source projects or toying around with the latest AI tooling,” she explained. “They have more time to do that while in college or younger than someone with a full-time job and a mortgage.” Smith said a “meaningful” share of her portfolio consists of companies founded by those under 30, with a handful even younger than 21, she said, adding that she’s “clearly not skeptical of youth.” “What they lack in experience, they make up for in excitement to experiment and lack of fear,” she continued. But she admits the market has become more merciless. “It doesn’t give you room to learn slowly anymore,” she said. There are more funding opportunities than ever, regardless of age — accelerators, incubators, pre-seed funds. But that money comes with strings attached: Founders like Rakhmetzhanov and Awasthi, flush with millions in cash, are expected to deliver growth in months, not years. “The forgiveness that used to exist at an early stage and the assumption you’d iterate your way to product-market fit doesn’t exist right now,” Smith continued. “Everyone is looking for the next Cursor, even though that growth trajectory is an outlier, not the norm.” For many founders — especially those building in public — the relentless strain to succeed can lead to murky ethical territory, or even predatory deal terms, since younger founders are often too new to the game to know what’s standard, yet ambitious enough to chase growth at all

Discord has acknowledged that a bug in its AI moderation system mistakenly banned more than 8,000 users over the past two months, after harmless images—including spreadsheets, chessboards, game textures, as well as white and gray transparent backgrounds—were incorrectly flagged as harmful content. The company confirmed that the issue had been affecting accounts since May, with an additional 200 users banned over the weekend before its team identified and fixed the problem. All affected accounts are currently in the process of being restored. The incident highlights one of the growing challenges surrounding AI-assisted moderation as many platforms increasingly rely on automated systems to identify illegal or abusive material at scale. In a detailed thread on X, Discord explained that its automated safety system works by matching uploaded content against databases of known harmful material. While the technology is designed to catch illegal content, the company acknowledged that it can sometimes generate false positives. A human moderator reviews the content, but a bug caused the system to immediately ban affected accounts. “We’re working on better safeguards so this can’t happen again,” the company wrote. Our systems flag content by matching it against known harmful material. This kind of similarity matching can produce false positives, which is why a member of our Trust & Safety team always reviews flagged content before any action is taken. The intended behavior is to…— Discord Support (@discord_support) July 7, 2026 Across X and Reddit, users have claimed they had been permanently suspended simply for uploading images containing square grid patterns. Several users speculated that Discord’s AI moderation tools have become increasingly sensitive to grid-like patterns because they have previously been used in attempts to obscure or disguise NSFW and child exploitation content from automated detection systems. Affected users have been expressing frustration on social media, with some arguing that permanent account bans based solely on automated detection can have serious consequences, particularly for users who rely on Discord for work, gaming communities, or long-distance social connections. “Losing a Discord account to something as unfair as this can be extremely devastating and affect users severely, and every day millions of users are affected by false AI bans. This needs to be stopped,” one X user wrote. My account was wrongfully banned from your platform due to a bug in your AI automod detecting my GAME TEXTURES as CSAM. I need my account back as I’m a game director and use Discord for all my communication. I have requested a review of my suspension.@discord @discord_support pic.twitter.com/QfAkCIJo6S— JDBRYANT 🎂 TODAY (@jdbryantdev) July 4, 2026 Discord isn’t alone in facing moderation troubles due to automated systems. Last year, users of Instagram and Facebook Groups reported widespread unexplained account suspensions that many believed were caused by AI moderation systems. Although users pointed to automation as the likely culprit, Meta never publicly confirmed whether AI errors were responsible. Now, Meta’s Oversight Board is pushing for increased transparency. Tumblr last year also faced complaints from users who said their accounts had been mass-suspended without clear explanations. When you purchase through links in our articles, we may earn a small commission. This doesn’t affect our editorial independence. Lauren covers media, streaming, apps and platforms at TechCrunch. You can contact or verify outreach from Lauren by emailing laurenf.techcrunch@gmail.com or via encrypted message at laurenforris22.25 on Signal. View Bio
U.K. Prime Minister Keir Starmer is about to announce a ban on social media usage for children under the age of 16, according to multiple reports. While the government had previously revealed that it was studying options around a ban, both the Guardian and the Financial Times said that Starmer is now ready to unveil the policy in a speech on Monday. Government sources told the Guardian that the U.K. ban will cover a similar range of social platforms as Australia, where TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, Reddit, Facebook, X, Threads, Snapchat, Twitch, and Kick are all banned for users under 16. Other products, such as gaming apps, would not be banned outright, but for their younger users, they’d need to remove features like the ability to chat with strangers. The policy would also prohibit users under 18 from accessing romantic and sexual chatbots and seek to prevent late-night scrolling. The government can use its existing regulatory powers to enforce some aspects of a ban, but new legislation may also be required, the Guardian said. The U.K. is one of a number of countries following Australia’s lead by considering bans on social media use by children. The U.K. already passed an age verification law that was similarly touted as protecting the safety of children online. These bans come amidst growing discussion around the effect of social media usage on teens and children — for example, the mother of murdered teen Brianna Ghey has called for a teen social media ban in the U.K. and said her daughter’s eating order and self-harming behavior were “significantly exacerbated by the harmful content she was consuming online.” At the same time, these bans have been criticized for potentially violating user privacy and isolating children, while offering unproven benefits to their mental health. Age verification laws — which, unlike outright bans, have taken effect in multiple U.S. states — have also been criticized as threats to online privacy and anonymity. And the verification methods aren’t exactly foolproof. When you purchase through links in our articles, we may earn a small commission. This doesn’t affect our editorial independence. Anthony Ha is TechCrunch’s weekend editor. Previously, he worked as a tech reporter at Adweek, a senior editor at VentureBeat, a local government reporter at the Hollister Free Lance, and vice president of content at a VC firm. He lives in New York City. You can contact or verify outreach from Anthony by emailing anthony.ha@techcrunch.com. View Bio
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